Toddlers Biting – Stop the Biting Without Biting Back

If you have experienced toddlers biting then I am sure you have heard the advice, ‘Just bite them back!’ I heard that so many times it made me sick! Seriously, I do not want to bite my child. I do not want to teach him that biting harder or by a bigger person is the solution. There has to be a better way, right?

Toddler Biting – It could be a symptom of something else going on with your child. Unfortunately the toddler will be unable to express to you what it is that is motivating the behavior. You are going to have to try and figure it out on your own! Here are a few places you may want to start:

* They desired the object another child was playing with.

* They were put into a situation where they were hurt or injured by another toddler.

* They wanted attention.

Now – this is by no means an exhaustive list of reasons – it is to get you thinking. Understanding the motivation will help you know what areas you need to teach your child.

Focusing On the Cause

The motivation is key. For example, if your child is biting someone for a toy, is it because they do not have the words to ask for the toy properly? If that is the case, you should consider talking to an expert locally that can help you see if their is a language delay. With early intervention you and your child can be much better off.

Parenting = Teaching NOT Talking

Remember, your target is the child – so get down on their level and work with them. Talking won’t do it – they just don’t operate that way. Make your expectations clear but do it in ‘Toddler Talk’ Let them practice your expectations over and over and over again. This isn’t arm-chair parenting, so get off your butt!

Be Supportive Of Positive Behaviors

Watch how your child is playing with others. Be aware of the warning signs of frustration, anger, hurt, or attention. If you see the situation brewing – intervene and change the situation. Give your child a hug. Tickle them for a bit – let them get the energy out of their system. Use substitution distraction – give them something else to focus on BEFORE it becomes a problem.

End Toddlers Biting has to end. You need to not only get involved, but you need to teach them. For strategies on doing that, you can go learn more at Stop End Toddlers Biting